Sunday, 19 April 2015

Say no to relationships

Relationships can be real tricky things not because there is any much game to be run or strategies to work but simply because two completely different persons with different personalities, different  desires, different outlooks on life and  different work ethics are thrust together by hormones and pheromones and they are expected to compromise and make a joyful union.

Sometimes all we want is for a relationship to work either because we are smitten with the person and we love their ways or we don't see them not being apart of our lives or the complicated and age old problem our parents love them so we are forced to try and love them to or as my good friend puts it those who are in relationships because they are afraid to be alone.

Ive learnt over time that being in a relationship is straineous work and sometimes all the work that needs to be be put in reassuring the other person of your faithfulness and loyalty, going out of your way to make the other person happy and most times not having that reciprocated , dropping the friends who may pose a problem to the relationship  sometimes the hastle just isnt worth it not because you dont love the  person but because most times the sacrifices end up bing one sided and you feel your being seeping away with every sacrifice you make.

I remember being in college and my first real boyfriend was an ok guy he tried to make me happy but he had a problem "that hoe wasnt loyal" every skirt tail blow him run behind it. I stayed out of loyalty and trust me it was the most awful and harrowing experience of my life he was  getting with my classmates, my friends, people he met on the street random girls on campus and then it struck me why be in a relationship that is so straineous and it ended.

It makes no sense being in a relationship just because you think you need to be or because in your mind you think the other person will not be able to get on without you. Do you and make you happy.