Thursday, 18 August 2016

Social media official

To many this may appear to be a trivial teenage matter but... In this day and age of technology how do you know when to make a relationship social media official? When do you start posting pictures of the one you love? when do you get to scream from the tops of the facebook and instagram peaks that Im inlove and I want you all to see who made me this happy. 

I know I know (side eyed glance and sigh) we should keep our private lives private and we should be careful what parts ofour  lives we share on social media. But, when did our partners become a secret ? When did it become the norm for us to be scared shitless to profess love for someone for everyone to see .  Let ne educate you all: We became scared to publicly identify our partners when the hoe culture became the norm, we stopped posting our partners for fear that they will be seen and their inbox will start popping and our partners will yeild to others and break our hearts. A sad yet true reality of the 21century/technological dating age. 

We became scared to post our partners out of fear that when it works out and we start posting someone else as our loves society would view us in the wrong light. Is my analysis fear or foul. Ive  noticed that my ass has not social media professed love and Ive come to realise that it is out of fear of one of the above listed happening to me. Teenagers I lift my hats off to to you.. You all be "baed" and proffessing love like there is no tomorrow. Adults when did love become so hard for us, when did we lose the fairytale of it all, when did we forget that love should be an all encompassing experience that should not be hid (mark you the sex part should be left for indoors... Well maybe that depends) but let us all get to a place when we dont flood peoples timelines with our partner or make them tired of seeing every single detail of your lives but a kindly reminder that love is good, that this is my boo thang and I'm proud never hurt nobody (that is unless your boo thang is married or has a dozen other boo thangs) Lets get back to a place where we can celebrate love and be fearless about it.





Kindly note: These views are my own barely edited thoughts... Signed me. 

Sunday, 3 January 2016

Why worry...

You know what I worry about? 
I worry that after a long engagement the person who has asked me to marry them will suddenly realise all my flaws and decide that I am no longer worthy of their love and admiration. I worry that the man who will ask me to be his will look past my grand facade of bravery,he will look beyond all my bragadoso, he will look beyond my wonderfully prepared meals, he will look beyond my goddess like looks and my awe inspiring prowess in the bedroom and he will see me. 

What's wrong with me you ask . Nothing from the point of view of many but the fact that I've had a couple men being interested in me and the same men telling me that I'm wife material and I'm not yet married causes a girl to wonder.
 
I'm worried that I may be requiring too much of the men I meet. Am I ? Do you know me? I'm open to council...  I'm worried that I may be too demanding when it comes to the needs that a man must fulfil and the time in which they are to be fulfilled . I'm worried that I may never get married. I'm worried that the society has become one where the men around want a good decent woman like myself and asks us to put up with an endless slew of bullshit/infidelity. They want to have their beautiful cake and eat it as well. I'm worried that my lack of putupsy with foolishness will cause me to be forever single.

What I am not worried about however is the ability of these men and some good ones at that to wife the utter worst of worst women and live a life of utter dis pair  while the bodies and minds of some rather auspicious women are left to wither into the oblivion called old age.

I am not worried that the lord knows exactly what he is doing and is saving me not only from some asshole that would thoroughly and utterly ruin my life but he is honing me to perfection for him. He is keeping this fine body, this fine mind single because he wants to make me the best me for my future husband and child. 

I'm not worried for I know that in 2016 (although I have made no resolutions of my own) the Lord will grant the desires of my heart according to his wisdom and glory and my single friends this year is our yeAr 😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁