Sunday, 19 October 2014

Money Ooooooooo

Watched this episode of sex and the city where the main character Carrie broke up with her fiancé and needed to buy back her apartment. She was  in no place to find a down payment for the apartment or to get a loan from the bank because she  for some reason made no preparations for her future.

Now this got me thinking about how persons in today's society for some reason or the other find it difficult to make themselves financially stable.  It's not that we don't have jobs or that we are completely broke in any sense of the word it's just that when it comes to dealing with the serious financial issues we are incapable.  why tho?

Is it that the society has pushed us to a place where  we can't take care of ourselves no matter how hard we've worked.  I hear my parents telling me how they were able to take care of themselves, what they were able to do when they started to collect their salaries and I think to myself, what the hell? .  Is the economy so bad that my pay no longer means anything .

I don't know how people with kids do it to be honest,  how do they pay bills, buy food and clothes and still manage to have pocket money....  Please one of you tell me? I see single people every day barely able to make ends meet n I wonder to myself is it worth it to have a job if at the end of the day all you're able to do is pay bill, why not just mooch off the government?

I'm not bashing hard work nor am I putting down the importance of independence and trying to make ends meet im just laying it out there to say I understand; I understand when a working person can't find lunch money/taxi fare in the middle of the month.
*Parents I understand when your child has more money than you do and they don't work.
*I understand when you go to the store n decisions have to be made... 
*I understand the anger you feel when you hear someone talking about all the pay you get.
*I understand the murderous thoughts that go through your mind when somebody beg you a ting, you can't give them n them cuss causing sinful thoughts to cross your mind.

Trust me I understand.

Saturday, 4 October 2014

Crazy type a loving he wants to give

So I've been experiencing this specific problem alot over the years and after stopping to observe I've noticed that some of my friends are having this very same problem as well.  Now it's not like this is an every day or everyweek occurance but when it happens more than thrice  it's a cause for concern.  Now, why must people behave the way they do when  they are shunned  and why is it almost acceptable for them to carry on with their antics...  It's  my belief that persons bad behaviour is continued when no one calls them out on thier Bs... 

Now the  observation I've had is that men are picking up the habit of becoming and acting like complete psychopaths when u shun them. I know this one lady who knew this gentleman, a sweet quiet soul who would make the perfect husband  for a woman who requires a life as dull as possible  with little to no upward mobility but a life with a man who absolutely adores her...  Now after much pleading that the gentleman step his game up and sort out his life the lady had to pull up root and move on...  That is when  the dragon beast reared it's ugly head: the man now aptly renamed the ole Fawt started calling her place of work, Stalking her home ', harrasing her friends and relatives and even threatened to expose intimate details of their relationship to the online community.  Now even if the lady wanted to give this man a second  chance in her life all  prospects of this were dashed when the old Fawt started to act up.

My question is this : what goes on in a man's head that would cause him to want to behave like this?  Why would  he believe that actions such as those could ever win him back his significant other.  As a  sensible individual living in today's world I believe that it would be obvious to any man that the way to  win back a womans affections would be to work at whatever short comings one might have and become the sort of person that the woman would not dear live or love  without. A man who wants his prized possession back would not dear do anything to upset her or make her unhappy... that is what we think.  It's almost as though they have no regard for themselves or the women they proposed to love when the  switch of single life is turned on.

Another instance of men going crazy that I've witnessed is the other day when a friend of mine was going through a fairly amicable breakup she and the gentleman were still friends and I genuinely applauded the love being shown...  The gentleman however had other plans he wanted the lady back n became crazed one day after she rejected his intimate advances.  The  lady wanted the gentleman back in her life but after the ole Fawt carry on and acted quite crazed she was sure that that was the end of the love/relationship road for them.

When love is lost it is a sad, miserable time and the parties involved will probably hurt like nothing else they have ever experienced but why degrade the integrity of the love by acting foolishly, jealously or quite frankly psychopathically.  One never knows what is destined to happen and overreaction and disrespect might ruin something that might have eventually rekindled to be something unbreakable...

Love hard.. Love long..  Love good